Divorce is never an easy task. It’s like walking into a lush corn maze back during Halloween – who doesn’t love the search for a good adrenaline rush, but with challenge. Mix in legal jargon? You bet. Emotional turmoil? Check. One day, it’s like you’re slicing up furniture during some weird version of musical chairs, the next you’re crying on the shoulder of your dog as you rewatch old wedding videos. The rollercoaster of divorce, and all its wonderful ups and downs.
So you know how your Aunt Sally introduced you to her friend and you couldn’t think of anything to say besides “So…nice couch?” Yeah, divorce chat can be just as clumsy initially. Friends don’t know whether they should provide you tissues or tequila. While your emotions cycle between anger, relief, and every once in a while an inappropriate giggle or two. Just imagine how you felt chuckling at your boss’s bad hair day in that meeting last month – eek.
But let’s focus on the shiny and new side of the rollercoaster, growth. Not in a corny self-help book way. But there’s a certain liberation in rediscovering long-lost interests or uncovering your culinary skills for the first time unbeknownst to you. Who knew watching the cooking channel had its benefits? Mystery solved!
Then we get to children if you happened to have those too. Kids are little sponges with the curiosity of a cat, and wisdom that…well, owls’ wisdom isn’t the right equivalency but you get my point. They ask questions. Oh, do they ask questions! Some afternoons you wind up playing accidental therapist and attempting to explain why Mom and Dad aren’t living together anymore. It’s like your life is a soap opera and you’re narrating it. But it’s truly amazing to see them smiling wryly at you as if they really knew all along.
But amidst the chaos is where the self discovery kicks in. It’s an intricate blend of owning your truths and embracing the unknown. Divorce isn’t a catastrophic end, but rather a door shut so that another may swing wide open. Some days, that new chapter might feel like learning to ride a unicycle on a tightrope during a hurricane.
And just like with any new realm, there’s a dash of humor, sprinkle of understanding and angle of irony to it. Cheers to the maze – because every story gets better when it all falls apart and there’s some secrets to be told in between